The arrival of a bouncing, newborn baby is a time of many things – celebration and lack of sleep to name a couple.
What it’s probably not a time for is thinking or wanting to get back in the saddle and have sex again.
You, as the mum, need to take the time for your body to recover from birth.
Throw in the fact you’re exhausted and feel about as sexy as a draft excluder, and it’s fair to say sex takes a back seat during those first few weeks and months.
There will come a time, however, when you feel up to it – and when that time does come, bear in mind the advice of these eight BabyCentre mums.
1. Don’t just limit yourselves to the bedroom
“Before having a baby, we’d got into the routine of only having sex when we were already in bed,” explains Karen.
“As our baby now sleeps in our room, we’ve branched out to the sofa, my office and even the shower,” she adds.
“It’s much more exciting!”
2. Redefine sex
“We’ve realised that if we don’t have time for full-blown love-making, we can still be intimate with one another,” reveals new mum Louise,
“Affection is so important to us, so even when we’re just passing on the landing, we’ll kiss or stroke each other. It helps remind us that we’re not just parents, we’re partners too.”
3. Take advantage of nap time
Mum Jamie says: “I usually spend my baby’s nap time catching up on the housework or sleep. At the weekends, though, I use it as an opportunity to get up close and personal with my partner.”
Lisa agrees, adding: “Nap time has saved our sex life. I’m too tired by the time we go to bed in the evening, but mid-afternoon on a Sunday works for me!”
4. Talk your way into sex
“With a glass of wine and the lights dimmed, my partner and I love talking about the days before we had our son,” Caroline reveals.
“It reminds us that we had a life as a couple before parenthood and suddenly we’ll find ourselves having sex like we used to!”
5. Spend a bit of money on a babysitter and have a date night
“My partner and I have introduced ‘date night’. Every Wednesday we go out for dinner or to the cinema and act like we did when we first met.
“More often than not, when we get home we’re in the mood,” admits Sarah.
6. Remember, your tiny baby doesn’t know what you’re up to!
“Straight after having our daughter, we assumed we couldn’t have sex if she was in the same room as us,” Zoe remembers.
“This made it really tricky as her cot is set up in our bedroom.
“After a long dry spell we realised we were being silly. She has no awareness of what we’re up to, so now we have sex whenever the mood takes us.”
7. Schedule a saucy phone call in the middle of the day
“In the first few months after having our baby, I was keen to make sure our sex life returned to its former glory,” says Kara.
“We were both exhausted but I made the effort to get him in the mood throughout the working day. I’d call him in his lunch hour and talk dirty to him for a few minutes.
“Sometimes I’d send him an email in the afternoon detailing all the things I wanted to do to him when he got home. It certainly did the trick.”
8. Make sure you talk to one another
“A few months after I had our daughter, I was really ready to get our sex life back to how it was before I was pregnant,” Hannah recalls.
” I tried to make a few subtle advances on my partner, but they seemed to pass him by. It was very frustrating so I eventually had to sit him down and explain how much I missed our intimate time together.
“He had no idea how I’d been feeling and thought he was being sensitive by not pressuring me. Before I knew it we were in bed!”
Source : www.mirror.co.uk
